Dream of the Month (August 2011)
- Title: A Surprise
- Date of the Dream: 2011 (mailed Thursday, 7 July 2011)
- Dream: My sister had just gotten divorced. I was very sad for her and also concerned about her. I expected her to be devastated. When I went to see her, though, I saw that she looked better than she had looked for a long time! She seemed younger, sexier and more fully alive. In particular, I noticed how beautiful her breasts were and that they hadn't been so while she was married. I thought that divorce was agreeing with her! I was relieved, though I felt like we were all getting away with something. She had a shaft of golden light shining on her, just a little bit, just a slice of light.
- Significant life event: None
- Personal concerns/issues: I have on-going issues with my own marriage. Both my sister and I married difficult men. I am very tired of relational stress.
- Associations: I don't know what to think. Am I dreaming about my sister or about myself? Am I supposed to take this as a sign about what I should do in some way? I would like to be at peace about my marriage, somehow, one way or another, but I have begun to give up hope of ever being at peace about it.
- Category: None Apply
- Pen Name: Nobody
Dr. Holloway's Comments:
Striking characteristics: The surprise outcome to a change implies unsuspected potentials for happiness.
We blossom in our natural emotional habitat, and when we are returned to our true selves. When a job or relationship ends, most of us expect that grief and sadness will result. But when change opens the door to a return to Self, the individual typically blooms like a plant given fresh air and sunlight after a long storage in darkness.
This unusual dream invites an acknowledgment that what we need is not the form we have been attached to, but the essence of life. It is possible that the dreamer is being given a hint about her own situation, that misery clouds our understanding of what makes us feel alive, and clinging to ill-fitting conditions, while brave, it not always our highest answer, or our greatest good. The clichés of the open mind and the open heart are timeless because they are true! We can find our slice of light and stand in it, alive and vibrating, any time, today, tonight.