Dream of the Month (March 2007)
- Title: Frozen In Fear
- Date of the Dream: 2/20/2007 (mailed Wednesday, 21 February 2007)
- Dream: I walk out of my house, down the front steps and start down the driveway. I am holding a white box that I am planning to put in the mailbox. I believe the box holds personal items belonging to my boyfriend. I am feeling fine, almost happy, as I'm looking down at the box. I hear low, menacing growling coming from the bushes behind me, which are in the garden in front of my house. I immediately freeze and don't know which way to go. Do I continue to the mailbox or turn and try to get back into the house before the dog (or whatever it is) can get to me? I was thinking of the TV show, "The Dog Whisperer" and repeating to myself: "Be calm and assertive, be calm and assertive." I still could not move or decide which way to go. I woke up scared while I was still frozen in the driveway.
- Significant life event: My boyfriend and I have been having serious problems and have been on the verge of breaking off our five year relationship for several weeks. I have been confused about whether or not to continue to work on the relationship.
- Personal concerns/issues: The day this dream happened I had mailed a box to my boyfriend containing some personal items of his, along with a letter to him regarding our situation.
- Associations: Perhaps I have been staying in an unhealthy relationship in order to avoid the confrontation (rabid dog) of the breakup. Each time the conflict (growling) starts, I back down and smooth things over but I'm still holding my real emotions inside.
- Category: Recurring
- Pen Name: conflict avoider
Dr. Holloway's Comments:
Striking Characteristics: Paralysis, or difficulty with physical movement, can reflect stress related to a decision or taking action. Typically there is pressure to take two different courses of action, and the dreamer feels trapped or immobilized.
When animals are threatening in a dream, it is often reflective of a subtle aggression operating in waking life. This could be a sadistic boss, an in-law, or even a partner who has “put down” energy or can be hurtful under the guise of being “right.” The dreams often exaggerate this aggressive energy (in the form of dangerous animals) because it is something that makes us alert to threat.
This crisis revolves around “delivering” something to the mailbox (male?) and feeling threatened about doing so. This increases the likelihood that some communication is at the crux of the anxiety, and that there is something intimidating about the entire issue. Strong feelings often cloud our normal sense of direction. These are times when an uninvolved friend, mentor or counselor can help sort out the threads and provide breathing room in which you can make your own decision and feel the relief that comes with taking action that serves your plans for the future.