Dream of the Month (October 2005)
- Title: Drowning In Sand
- Date of the Dream: 9/16/2005 (mailed Saturday, 17 September 2005)
- Dream: I am walking in a park-like setting with a small child in my arms. All around me, sand suddenly appears rising rapidly. As the sand gets to waist level, a man that I don't know says he must take the child in order to keep her safe. I am confused and not sure if it is safe to give the child to him, but the sand is rising; I think that because he is taller than I it might be safer for the child if he took her. I am not entirely comfortable with the idea, because I don't know anything about him. The sand continues to rise; as it gets to my chin, I fear I am going to be completely covered in it and be unable to breathe. Just as the sand starts to cover my mouth and nose, I awake with a start.
- Significant life event: I was downsized from my job as a childbirth educator after 9 years of faithful service, last November for purely financial reasons. My 18 year old twins moved from my home to their father's in August of this year. They joined their 21 year old sister there. They live in the same town and I see them at least once a week.
- Personal concerns/issues: My major concerns of late are primarily about my career path and about my children. I am working with plants and with mothers and babies, as a post partum doula and child care provider. I have a desire to do art and create things. I have this feeling that I don't know what I want to be when "I grow up." One of my sons has had a history of drug use in the past and he has all of the signs that he is doing drugs again, so I have been concerned about him.
- Associations: I am unsure of the meaning of the dream, but it has been haunting me. The feeling of drowning in the sand was very disconcerting and I am having trouble shaking the anxiety that was associated with it.
- Categories: Anomalous and Nightmare
- Pen Name: Judy B.
Dr. Holloway's Comments:
Striking Characteristics: Drowning dreams almost always reflect a sense of overwhelm and uncertainty as to how to respond to a stressor or set of stressors.
Anxiety dreams that echo recent storm-disasters are prevalent as collective anxiety and grief heightens personal stressors. We can see this is a crisis theme with varied priorities: survival, protectiveness, forced choices without certainty of outcome. Sand represents change, friction, resistance, time, endings and beginnings. “Dangerous sand” means overwhelm, uncertainty and feeling at odds with your surroundings. Her instincts are good, however: she is able to hand off responsibility, and surrender to the change as needed. This suggests she is also able to handle one thing at a time, and to adust to new chapters in her life. The less energy goes into worry and resistance, the more can be channeled into crafting a new creation of life-as-art. Honor the transition, the grief, the strain and the excitement. Look for a milieu that nourishes the spirit, where the contribution you make goes full circle.