Dream of the Month (July 2005)
Dr. Holloway's Comments:
Striking characteristics: Sometimes unexpected and bizarre pregnancies in dreams represent projects, changes and other kinds of “expectations,” that the dreamer feels on a deep level.
This dream takes place just a month after the anniversary of the real-life passing of the baby's father. Thus for whatever it is worth, we can speculate that this dream arose in the backdrop of unconscious marking of that anniversary.
The personal drama that unfolds shows you struggling to manage and make sense of the ongoing presence of the baby's father in your lives, your feelings about his illness, and the amazing discovery that you are “carrying” something that belonged to him — this time, apparently against your own wishes. In the simplest form, this dream appears to hint that you may want to reflect upon what you do and do not want to carry forward into your future. Sometimes we are unaware we are “carrying” something that we took on, or let inside, that is not in our best interests. When someone has passed away, our ability to sort out the baggage from the love becomes blurred with grief, resentment, disappointment, and overwhelm. Your task, the dream hints, is to take forward what will strengthen and help you and your child, and try to recognize and leave behind any distortions or bad feelings that might haunt you. If you can, find someone to confide in who is understanding or has gone through a similar experience. You are not alone, you are not “wrong” to have multiple sets of feelings, or to have strange dreams. When you trust yourself, your process, and the life ahead, your natural strength and savvy will help you craft the life you and your daughter deserve.