Dream of the Month (July 2002)
Dr. Holloway's Comments:
Broken Glass often symbolizes emotional betrayal and the sense of feeling fragmented.
Dreams of ex-spouses are fairly common dream code for “a similar dynamic at work.” It isn not about the person himself, but about the tense, compensating pattern. Whether the dynamic is manifesting in a professional relationship, an undercurrent with the present partner, or (most often) between warring factions within the dreamer's psyche, the pain and tension are the most recognizable characteristics.
Rather than leap toward trying to “pin the tension” on a particular party, focus on getting a feeling for how it operates in your emotional life. This dream is a picture of you being so willing to make something difficult work out, that you take up all the slack, and if there is energy missing from the mixture you take it out of your own hide. When you “pick up the tab” endlessly to make an ill-fitting arrangement do for the time being, it is like shattering your expectations and then stoically chewing up the jagged pieces.
Remember, sacrifice of this kind can pull you through a pinch, but if you “forget” and use it reflexively as a permanent coping style, you really do wind up feeling shredded, and may not observe that other, less distressing options are available. This isn not about being a victim; it is more about mistakenly channeling courage in a direction that consistently cheats you out of the rewards you have more than earned. it is just a pattern, and patterns can readily be changed when we understand their shape, function and results. If this makes sense to you, consider reviewing some of the best writing on this topic covered in the wonderful classic “Women Who Run with the Wolves,” by Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes. You can still meet your challenges bravely without paying such a high price internally, and vote with your energy for the life you want to live.