Dream of the Month (March 2002)
Dr. Holloway's Comments:
Identifying Characteristics: Forgotten doorways are sometimes symbolic of forgotten potentials and desires. Neglected pets may reflect needs that have been filed under “non-essential” for so long, they are reaching starvation levels.
This dream includes three themes that appear frequently among busy women today: forgotten rooms or doorways in the home, fish desperate for water, and pets forgotten and starved, sometimes for years.
In most cases the forgotten aspects of the home reflect potentials or desires that have been dismissed as impractical or given a low priority for many years. These surprise doorways or rooms suggest that it’s time for the dreamer to take a second, more serious look at early hopes and desires. The specific quality represented varies individually; some long for religion, or to start a family, others find they “forgot” that they had always intended to write a book or paint seriously. The discovery doesn’t suggest it’s time to chuck your present life in favor of a fantasy, but it does hint that it’s time to look creatively at making your wishes come true without upsetting your practical agenda.
The forgotten pets and dying fish can reflect emotional, subjective needs that are usually the first thing we dismiss when we attempt to be brave, hard-working and a team player. The tougher and smarter you are, the more efficiently you can put these needs into cold storage. But when the dreaming mind horrifies us by showing creatures starving for what their very nature must have, it’s a signal that should be taken seriously. Stop thinking in either/or terms, and envision a lifestyle that affords you more emotional nourishment, and creative expression, and stimulates your most playful, innocent self. The best change you can make is to embrace these needs as important and determine to build a life that includes and celebrates them at the same time you succeed with the bread-and-butter stuff. You can have it, and without dire sacrifice, but your own vision is the critical element. It starts there.